One of the hardest things to do is climb stairs looking backward. You keep falling to the bottom because you can’t see the next step. That’s what happens in our lives when we allow guilt, regret, remorse, and resentment to fill our thoughts and unfortunately, that’s where 95% of the world’s population live.
Feelings of regret, remorse, and resentment start with “re”. This means that past experiences are pervading one’s thoughts. Therefore those who are having trouble gaining the success they desire are reliving past experiences that they can’t go back and fix and are emotionally involved with those past experiences. Guilt falls in that mix because of past experiences. We allow the guilt of our mistakes to weigh heavily in our thoughts. It’s like wearing a mental backpack filled with the stones of mistakes. Mixed in with the stones of mistakes are the boulders of resentment, the pebbles of remorse, and the rocks of regret. That makes for a pretty heavy load to bear on the stairs to success.
Some people are experts at reaching deep into the backpack of the past and finding the one, pebble, stone, rock, or boulder they can hurl at their friend or spouse in anger. Small people live their lives like this. They’re small because they’ve not grown in their own awareness of who they are and the possibilities that lie right in front of them. As a matter of fact, they trip over opportunities but their small-mindedness makes them look over their shoulder and wonder what it was they tripped over.
So how do you get rid of the backpack of past experiences? It’s simple. Forgive. Forgive means to abandon, let go of completely. And that takes practice. It’s a matter of realizing that you’re thinking about the past and become aware of the thoughts. Then saying to yourself, this thought is not conducive to moving forward and forgiving yourself for having the thought. That’s the trick. Forgiving yourself. It’s hard to do. It takes practice.
A ritual of forgiveness is what has to be developed. When you find your emotional state being altered by someone, past or present, you can think to yourself that you don’t like what your feeling and that you forgive the person in the past or who is standing right in front of you for making you feel the way you are feeling.
If you’re having trouble letting go of past experiences you’re self-forgiveness is what will let go of the backpack. Forgive yourself for hurting others or yourself, knowingly or unknowingly. Soon the backpack becomes lighter and lighter and you can drop it on your past steps on the staircase of success.
Writing a statement of forgiveness on a daily basis is a ritual anyone can employ to ditch the backpack. It only takes a few minutes and is SO liberating. It feels good! Feeling good is an ingredient in the fuel that propels you to success.